Dating + Traveling = Successful relationship? Not too sure about that one. Maintaining friendships is one thing but trying to have a romantic relationship with someone can be difficult. For some reason, we always want to spend extended amounts of time with someone we are interested in or we want attention from them. This could also just be me. But while you travel it can be hard to do. Because I move to countries on working holiday visas, I run into the problem of my visa running out. So why would I want to get into something serious if I know I'll be leaving at the end of my year? I don't really know the answer but I still give dating a go for shits and giggles.
When I first moved to Australia I was dating someone back home in Canada. Spoiler alert...long distance didn't work. We lasted about 1 month. There I was wanting attention from the guy I'm dating but the time difference was really getting in the way of that and just a lack of effort on both parts. I decided to go on some dating apps to see who was out there.
He was Canadian. Found him on Bumble and decided well if he's Canadian, he must be alright. Really getting out of my comfort zone here. Turns out he had a girlfriend that he didn't tell me about. Fantastic! Karma is definitely going to get me on this one. A couple of months later we reconnected because I like to give people second and third chances but turns out he was the exact same asshole. That'll teach me to go back to old flings.
He was Australian. This one lasted about 3 months...longer than the first so I felt like I was getting better at this dating thing. He was lovely but the whole I'm going to be leaving the country at some point came up. Should we go through with a partner visa so I can stay longer? We had only known each other for a short period of time so that probably wouldn't be the best idea. I didn't know if I would want to stay in Australia long term and getting into a serious relationship just wasn't my thing. I wanted to enjoy my time and still explore this country; do my own thing. I didn't know if I was cut out for something serious yet.
The Irishman. I secretly have a love for the Irish; probably why I'm moving there next. Those accents just get me. Anyways. the Irishman. I met him at work. Now I know it's not the best to get involved with someone at work but hear me out. We worked together and nothing happened UNTIL he left this job and found another one so I'm in the clear. Again, someone who was wonderful and I enjoyed spending time with even if we did nothing but watch documentaries. Things just fizzled out with him which was on both of us; the effort kind of just stopped. However, we still do keep in touch every once in a while and he is actually going back to Ireland this year. We have made plans to meet up and go search for some castles.
There are some other men that I had "dated" in my time in Australia but trust me, it can be time consuming and frustrating. It's hard to find someone you really vibe with even when you aren't traveling. I feel like I have gotten to the point in my life where I would like to find my partner in crime. Someone who wants to explore the world with me but also be okay staying at home on a Sunday reading a book or going for a walk.
The upside of dating while you travel is you get to meet new people from all around the world. And hey, if it doesn't work out you get to leave the country and hopefully never see them again. I do often wonder will I ever find someone that wants the same things as me. If I keep leaving countries it can be hard to find that. What if I find someone and that's my person and then I get deported because my visa is expired. Clearly, long distance isn't really for me but maybe if it was with the right person? Who knows. I guess I'll have to wait and see what the universe and countries deliver.
So, Ireland here I come. Fingers crossed I find another Irishman with a great accent that I can swoon over. And if I don't find someone well I still have me, myself and the world.